Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Facebook Friends

I had an interesting discussion with a co-worker last week about Facebook and "friends" on it.

He shared a meme making fun of people posting about every time they go to the gym. In his repost he mentioned not caring about people posting that either. He got one reply to it from a "Facebook friend" who called him a hypocrite because he posted a few times over the years about going to the gym. He was incensed, flamed the guy, and then removed him as a friend.

This "Facebook friend" was someone he knew to say hi to about 5-6 years ago. Basically an acquaintance. Not a real "Friend". Yet someone he added to Facebook. He hasn't actually seen or talked to this person in 4 years, since the acquaintance moved away. This is the only thing his "friend" has commented on in the last 4-5 years, even when they were living in the same city.

He wondered why the "friend" would make a comment like that but nothing else over the years. I told him the answer is easy, Facebook, hell the internet in general, allows people to act like twats. People troll with impunity because they don't care and/or believe they won't get caught. A lot of people use the internet as an excuse to be an asshole and say things they wouldn't face to face.

The guy was an acquaintance not a real friend years ago. Why have him as a friend on Facebook if that was the case? Just to pad your number of friends and make yourself look important to ... hell I don't know ... who really cares how big someone's "Facebook friend" list is?

My co-worker seemed to think he was wronged by the guy's comment. If that is all the guy had to say in all the years why bother saying it? To which I replied with two questions. 1) Why would you care what someone you haven't talked to in years and who was just an acquaintance thought? 2) Why would you even have someone you don't talk to or think about as a friend.

He had no answer to that.

I told him not to feel bad about that. A lot of people are in the same boat as him. Myself included. I accepted friend requests years ago from people who were just acquaintances and I have never talked to since leaving South Korea. Then, we shared friends and would see each other from time to time when out. Usually at "beverage" establishments. Since leaving Korea, nothing. That works both ways though. None of us (There are a few acquaintances from that time in my life who are "Facebook friends") has had anything to do with the other since I left South Korea. I have only really made an attempt to keep in touch with my actual friends from those days.

The other day I shared a meme about people posting about what they ate for breakfast and people not caring. An acquaintance from way back then left a comment basically calling me a hypocrite because I had posted a lot of food pictures over the years.

In a way he was right, in a way he was wrong. I was commenting on people who post pics of everything they eat all the time when I shared the meme. I also created the album and posted the pictures starting way back because friends at home asked about foreign foods, and students in Korea asked about foods outside of Korea. Yet, he was right to a degree, I had posted pics like that.

What to do? Should I react like my co-worker? Attack back and remove the person? Why bother? The OLD acquaintance really doesn't matter in my life. Looking back, they never really mattered or they would have advanced from acquaintance to friend.

I almost commented "Wow, only time you have ever posted on my Facebook page in 5+ years and it is to troll. What a fucktard you are." But why bother? He would either be happy he "got to me" by being a troll (which after looking at how he comments on Facebook seems to be the truth) or not care because we don't communicate.

In the end, it really just made me realize that I should clean my friend list up and get rid of the acquaintances who I gave friend status to.

Monday, December 29, 2014

What the ... Judd?!?!?

Who the fuck is Judd Apatow and why should I care about what he has to say? Ok, Facebook thinks I would be ingterested vis-a-vis trending to know wh he is.

According to trending Judd Apatow is upset that Canadian venues haven't cancelled Bill Cosby and is severely pissed off. Yet I still find it hard to care.

Then I found out, thanks to Wikipedia, that "he is an American film producer, director, comedian, actor, and screenwriter. He is best known for his work in comedy films ..." Yet I still don't give a shit what he thinks about just abut anything.Ooops, sorry. I actually don't care what he thinks about anything. Fucking "celebs" and the media that panders to them, who think that what is going through their minds, or moths, really matters. As a wise man once said "Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one." And my add on " ... but some stink more than others."

You are welcome to your opinion Mr. Apatow but as FOX news is so quick to point out, unless it benefits a "liberal", people are innocent until proven guilty. Unless we are in the USSR or "Emperor" Obama's land according to the 'right'.

Meh. Fuck it.

No More Motormouth.

Motormouth. Damn he was one annoying fucktard. He exemplified a lot of what makes a fucktard. At times he made work unbearable. I actually had to go to HR about him. However, he has done something I never expected. Something you rarely see in people. He has changed. For the better.

After what happened with HR you could see him trying to change his ways. In the last year and a half or so he has really grown up. I actually enjoy working with him now. Something I never thought I would say.

Most people don't change, usually because they don't really try. Motormouth, and this is the last time I will refer to him as that, changed. For that I give him a LOT of credit.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Jean Beliveau

I wish I could say I remember watching Jean Beliveau play hockey. I definitely watched hockey then and cheered for Montreal. However, I was 6 when he retired and can't truthfully say I remember him as a player. :( I wish I could.

Jean Beliveau died last week. He is one of the VERY VERY few people I have heard others talk about and they had NOTHING bad to say about him. I remember him more as a retired representative of the Montreal Canadiens. He was pure class. According to those who knew him when he played the same was true. Players from all over the NHL were told that if they wanted to be the best for their team they would do well to emulate Beliveau.

I watched the opening ceremony of the game tonight. It started about 15 minutes ago. Montreal got it right. Their tribute was spot on. Having the chair he always sat in at the Bell Centre ...  I almost typed The Forum (and it will always be The Forum to me) ... draped with his number and The Habs colours was perfect. I cried. His wife was there, along with other family members. The crowd honoured him, and thereby them. I cried. The farewell was almost as classy as Jean Beliveau was and always will be.

I am not a big fan of televised funerals. I wish I could be in Montreal tomorrow to express my grief at the loss of Jean Beliveau. My gratitude at all he gave to his sport and his country. His family is in my thoughts, and he will ALWAYS be there.

Thank you for all you did on the ice and off. You will always be remembered.

What the ... Christmas envy?!?!?

It turns out that Halifax City Councillors have $93,000 in discretionary funds to use every year. Funds that of course come from our tax dollars. It is supposed to be used for capital developments and infrastructure developments. Things like parks, playgrounds, maintenance of common areas.

One Councillor, Brad Johns of Sackville, decided to use $25,000 of his to get an animatronic talking Christmas tree for Sackville. He compares it to Woody the Talking Christmas tree. The difference being Private funds were used to purchase and maintain Woody at Mic Mac Mall. Johns used public money.

At a time when there are a lot of people who could use monetary help Johns wastes public money on this. There was just a story in the news about an elderly woman in Metro who couldn't afford her prescriptions. More people are using food banks. But hey, lets waste $25 - fucking - thousand dollars on a damn animatronic tree.Why?

Well, according to Johns it is only right. Halifax has the parade of lights. Spryfield has a Santa Claus parade. Various areas have tree lighting events. So of course spending $25,000 on a Christmas tree is a great idea.

I have heard of penis envy but this is a first for Christmas envy.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

What the ... guilt trips?!?!?

I received some mail today. The kind of mail that makes me shake my head and wonder just how fucking stupid some charities are. Or rather just how much they really need money.

This time it was unsolicited email from Habit For Humanity. How they got my name and address I don't know. nor do I really care. It contained Christmas cards and seals that they expect me to send them money for. It gets circular filed. What a fucking waste of money, on their part.

What pisses me off the most is that they are trying to play on the sympathy of people. They expect that people will feel driven by guilt to send them money. Not by a desire to help but guilt.

I still remember the asshole who once called me representing the Children's Help Line. At the time I was between jobs and didn't have any money to spare or I probably would have donated to them. At the time I thought it was a worthy cause. Then comes the call. I explain my situation and the guy has the nerve to tell me that surely I could borrow $20 from someone. When I asked to talk to his supervisor he hung up.

I contacted the Children's Help Line to complain. They just gave a spiel about outsourcing phone solicitation to a telemarketing company. They weren't interested in sending my complaint on to the telemarketer.

Their excuse doesn't mean shit. They hired someone to represent them. When they call and act like the fucktard I dealt with they are acting in the name of the company. Much like the Poppy volunteer I dealt with in 2010. Thanks to the telemarketer that called me, and the lack of interest in following up on my complaint, I will NEVER donate to the Children's Help Line.

How much money, donated money, do these charities waste on the mail outs? Let alone on the money spent on telemarketers? Which is why I don't donate to those charities.

I have charities that I support regularly. I have given them permission to contact me. I donate to them because I choose to out of a desire to help. Which is why I don't appreciate the unsolicited contact. The attempt to guilt me into donating money. The waste of money.


Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Social Experiment

I blogged this on my other site because it felt more relevant there. But it belongs here and everywhere.

The "experiment" these guys really proved why I love Canada. We don't just talk the talk, we walk it. I hope I would have the balls to step in and protect someone being picked on like the guy in this "experiment". Hell, I even hope I would punch the guy in the mouth who was being a racist asshole.